Something I firmly believe in is that in any relationship or friendship you have to have boundaries. My small social circle was selected carefully and is very seldom added to. For boyfriend, girlfriends, or just good old fashion friends, it is beyond important not to spend every waking moment texting, calling, or hanging out. Personal space and a break from each other is vital for any healthy relationship.
Proverbs 25:17 “Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house- too much of you , and they will hate you.”
I am by no means a relationship expert. That one boyfriend I had that lasted a whopping five weeks wasn’t exactly my shining moment. I’m not in a relationship, but I have learned a few lessons along the way that I think can help anyone getting into one or wanting to get into one.
- I strongly suggest a friendship, with boundaries, before getting into a relationship with further boundaries. You will have time to see how they react to things in life, how they carry themselves, and if they treat you how you deserve to be treated. There are so many things that you can tell from a person just by being their friend and not rushing into something you might regret.
- When you set boundaries, make sure they are respected. Your boundaries are what give you the most peace about the relationship/friendship you are in. Whether you only want to hang out 1 day a week, don’t want to go places alone together, won’t act a certain way in public, need personal space, don’t always want to be holding hands/hugging/kissing; whatever your boundaries are, never feel silly for having them. If they don’t respect your boundaries, they don’t deserve to be your friend/boyfriend/girlfriend.
- Most importantly, pay attention to how they’re growing in Christ. Do they have a relationship with the Lord, or do they glance at their Bible app when it’s convenient and attend church sporadically? Have they been stuck in the same rut forever and haven’t changed it? Don’t date that person who never grows, they will make a weak spiritual partner for you and could weaken your relationship with Christ.
2 Corinthians 6:14-15 “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteous and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an un-believer?